Hi. I hopped into a Tardis, and came to visit you, from the future. I’ll wait a few minutes, so the shock can pass.
Done? Good. Let’s move on 🙂
Right now, you’re in your second year of high school. Last year was a rollercoaster, but you already know that. What you don’t know, is that in the next few year you’ll change into a completely different person, and that’s ok, even if right now you think change is bad. Change is good. It will take some time until you’ll realize that, but have no fear.
You will decide to take your future seriously, and that’s amazing. Considering that some people will try to drag you down with them, you will make the adult decision and surround yourself with people who want you to grow and flourish.
Also, you deserve a big round of applause. No, a huge round of applause. You managed to ditch some really bad behaviors you acquired last year (sorry, mom…), and you are still in progress with others. I know it wasn’t easy and I know it takes courage and for that I applaud you.
Right now, going to college and other “adult” stuff feel like things from a distant future. You will have no idea what you want to do with your life, in the next few years. However, you will start learning what you do not want. And that is equally as important.
You deserve to be loved. I know you don’t want to hear that what you’re experiencing right now is not love, it’s emotional abuse, but you will wake up one day and not recognize yourself. When that day will come, it will be the trigger you need to get your shit together and do what is right for yourself. Yes, be selfish. Be selfish, because otherwise you will feel miserable for a long, long time. Many people won’t understand your reasons, but I promise you, the day you will realize that you are not happy and that you deserve to be loved 24/7, not just on certain occasions, that will be the day your life will begin again.
Oh, and guess what? Your life-long dream of becoming independent and self-sufficient? Yeah, you’ll get there. And pretty damn fast, for that matter. I told you your life will start again and I wasn’t joking around. The positive influence and the loving environment you’ll have around you will help you grow and achieve your goals. I know it sounds surreal now, when you’re only 16, but believe me (actually, believe you…from the future. Me, the future you… argh, you get it): if you work hard enough, and with a purpose, good things will come – all those motivational quotes have a grain of truth in them.
Love your parents. I know you have strong negative feelings about them right now, but it’s only
because you provoked them. No teenager wants to hear this, but they’re right on most subjects. You’ll come to that conclusion later, when you’ve already taken a few hits from life.
Stay a child. I don’t mean that in the immature kind of way. I mean keep your spirit young and fresh, and make sure you don’t end up like one of those boring adults (which we both hate), who go to bed at 9pm, and consider food shopping a “night out”. Granted, there might be nights when I fall asleep earlier, but that’s only because I work on multiple projects during the day and when I get home, I’m exhausted. But I think you’d like the future you (at least the 22-year-old you). Also, your ability to keep a fresh, innocent and joyful attitude will be appreciated by many people, starting with your boyfriend (well, actually he’s my boyfriend, you haven’t met him yet. You’ll like him, trust me).
Learn how to cook! Now! Spoiler alert: you’ll move out of your parents’ house sooner than you think, and you can’t live off of salads, scrambled eggs and coffee (I’ve tried it, it doesn’t work).
And last, but not least… please maintain a good relationship with your sister. She’ll be off to college soon, you will have moved out, and she’s the only one in this world who gets you. Don’t let all those years of inside jokes, movies and books references and those “Coffee and cigarettes” moments go to waste (again, sorry mom…), because once that bond is broken, it’s so hard to get it back… Love her and let her love you, take care of her even if she doesn’t understand it at certain times, because she’ll always be your little sister, and you ain’t getting another one anytime soon.
Now, I’ll hop back into my Tardis and get out of your hair, I’ve given you enough food for thought for a lifetime