Wanting to change things about yourself is not a bad thing. Either if you want to get rid of a bad habit or if you just want to add a healthy habit in your life, change is usually good.
However, there is a common belief (mostly among the internet) that change only follows after a trigger, a moment when you start feeling discontent about yourself. And this is where I don’t necessarily agree.
Of course, there are cases when you feel like you deserve better or you can do better, but change can also come from a desire of improvement. A moment when you say to yourself “Hey, you know what I want to do? I want to learn a new language/to play a new instrument/to paint/to edit in Photoshop”. And that is the moment where something beautiful starts, because this is the moment when you decide to make yourself a priority and you start growing.
A few tricks I’ve learned while bettering myself is that, when you set a new goal for yourself, be it a new language or developing a programming skill, it’s best to follow this little steps, which help a lot in the long run:
- Surround yourself with the proper environment
Let’s say you want to learn a new language, like I did, a few weeks ago (I suddenly decided I want to learn Swedish, for God knows what reason – all I knew was that I wanted to learn that particular language). It’s best to surround yourself with music and movies from that environment, so you can “catch” the best way to pronounce certain words, or even learn some new sayings.
- The buddy-system
Nothing compares to having a partner, someone who can and will hold you accountable for your progress. You are more likely to make progress when you have to keep someone else updated to your progress, rather than slacking off with no consequences.
- Visualize it
Now, I don’t mean necessarily a vision board (but if that works best for you, go for it!), I mean put little memos or stickers in your planner, on your fridge, anywhere where you will see it everyday. By doing this, you will also hold yourself accountable, before any buddy-system will.
- Ask for help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. It doesn’t even have to be a real-life person. Googling “how to do…” will almost always help you out, so you won’t have to remain stuck on a certain level of training. Also, YouTube tutorials are also a great help, because someone will actually show you, step by step, how to do something, and you won’t feel left out. Now, of course, I don’t discourage asking for help from a real person, don’t get me wrong, it’s just that the Internet is so much more accessible.
All in all, if you decided that it is time for a change, I can only congratulate you and wish you the best 🙂